金曜日, 4月 22, 2005
Mixed Races. Mixed Marriages. Illicit Affairs. And More
I had an unexpected lunchmate. His name is Talik ~ half Sri Lankan, half-Japanese. His parents are both quarter japanese, quarter so on ~ . Believe it or not, he grew up in the States and just last year decided to try his luck in his half-native land Japan.
Talik is an officemate. My friend Emiko introduced him to me. He's with Consulting SE dep't but very much interested in Programming (whew an area where I honestly don't have a bit of interest).
We talked mostly about what we do in BP dept, about English and Japanese and of course about mixed marriages. Unlike Mariah Carrey who blames her 'emotional imbalance with her mixed race', Talik doesn't seem lost and confused. The way I see it, he's a young man eager to see the world, eager to try new things and eager to inch his way into the corporate ladder.
Everytime I try to analyze it, mixed marriages seems to be a mind-boggling, super complex-arrangement and therefore a big decision to make in life. Think of all the technicalities, what language would you use? Are you going to change religion? Where will you settle? Who will give up career, life, luxury? What about children? Coming from a relationship with a foreigner, I'm absolutely positive that it's a complicated thing, with cultural differences, language barrier, aside from the usuals, love life is never a walk in the park.
Or perhaps, I'm just over-analyzing. I don't know sometimes it feels so hard. But in the end, it really boils down to being comfortable in your own skin. Whether you're a product of mixed marriages, or you are in one, what matters is you accept yourself, and you stand by your choice.
It's funny that Talik, Emiko and I got to talk about intra-office affairs in TM! Hahahaha, yes, I gather there are a lot of official and unofficial intra-office affairs.
Out of the blue, he asked me 'What do you think about getting a Jap for a bf?' I surprised myself with my instant reply 'Why not?'
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